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Ways You Can Personalize an Obituary for a Loved One

Published: April 17, 2017 by Jerry Spears Funeral Home

How are you supposed to summarize the life and your love for someone in a few short paragraphs? This is one of the biggest problems people face when it comes to writing a unique and personalized obituary for a deceased loved one.  There is basic information that must be stated in all obituaries, but you want the obituary to be inimitable and tailor towards your loved one.

 

It is imperative in an obituary to depict in a few short paragraphs who the person was and their major accomplishments, all while conveying their personality as well. For some this seems like an impossible task, therefore our funeral directors here at Jerry Spears Funeral Home, have compiled a small list to help you personalize the obituary as much as possible.

 

Standard Information

In every obituary there are common things that must be included, after the basic list is where you are able to get creative and personalize the obituary:

 

  • Name of the deceased
  • Place of birth and death
  • Birth date and Death date
  • Memorial or donation information
  • Their immediate loved ones
  • Location, time and place of the funeral service

 

As well, in some cases the cause of death may be released if the family is comfortable with that information becoming public.

 

Ways to make it Unique

Stories

If you are unsure of where to start with the obituary, as the immediate family or friends for a story or memory that really sticks out for them about the deceased. Try to find a story that shows their personality and will be able to connect you to multiple different groups within the deceased life.

 

Memories

Chances are that if you are writing the obituary for your loved one that you are very close to them. There has to be one strong memory or happy moment that sticks out to you when you are thinking of that person. It can also be very therapeutic to share your positive memories in an otherwise difficult moment. Try to focus on a time that you shared with them that you will never forget.

 

Who were they?

This is the one of the hardest points for people to focus on, making it one of the biggest challenges to summarize someone’s life and aspirations and achievements into a few short sentences or paragraphs. How do you give justice to someone’s entire life in a few words? It’s important to remember that this obituary is focusing on the life that they loved and shared with their friends and family.  Try to write down the first five words that come to your head when you think of the deceased, and that may be a good place to start.

 

What were their hobbies and skills?

If you can think of an activity or hobby that the deceased loved to do, why not include that in the obituary. If it was something that they enjoyed doing or a skill that they excelled in, its important to tell people about it because it will also help bring them closer to the deceased. Or even maybe it was a skill or passion that they taught you about. For examples, if the deceased loved cooking and you used to go over there every Sunday for family dinners and they would teach you their favorite dishes.

 

 

If you have any further questions on this topic, please contact us at Jerry Spears Funeral Home.

How to Choose the Right Flowers for a Funeral

Published: April 17, 2017 by Jerry Spears Funeral Home

When it comes to funeral services, flowers are one of the most common grounds. However, it is important to know the different meanings and symbolism's associated with the right floral arrangements. Funeral flowers are symbolic of compassion, sympathy, and love but also represent hope and to some religious groups they also represent the circle of life or rebirth of the soul.

 

Why are most funeral arrangements in the shape of a circle?

The highest in demand funeral arrangements actually come in the shape of wreaths or circles. There is a very simplistic and important reason for the symbolic circle; it is supposed to represent the circle of life that every person must journey on. Just like the circle, there is no end point but rather it is a point of infinity and eternity, that we all continue on.

 

Type of Flower

1. Lilies: Lilies are a universal flower, which symbolizes the restoration of innocence after death.

2. Gladioli: Gladioli are tall flower that are meant to symbolize integrity and strong character

3. Carnations: The meaning of carnations can change passed on the colour, but overall the symbolize love and remembrance

4. Chrysanthemums: Chrysanthemums are used at funeral services as a symbol of a positive life fulfilled

5. Roses: Roses, like the carnations, their meaning varies based on colour, however, roses are typically the most common flower used at services. They are symbolic of love and innocence, but in some cases also represent sorrow.

 

Color of the Flower

As is the case with any kind of floral arrangement, the colors that are chosen are significant.

  • White: Hope
  • Red: Expression of love
  • Bright vivid colors: Warm, Pleasant memories
  • Pastel Colors: Purity, Innocence
  • Dark Colors: Somber, Mourning

 

In the case you cannot be present on the day of the burial, sending flowers lets you express your sorrow and sense of loss, unless specified in the funeral wishes. If you have any further questions on this topic, please contact us at Jerry Spears Funeral Home.

How Does a Funeral Differ From a Celebration of Life?

Published: April 17, 2017 by Jerry Spears Funeral Home

Funerals and Celebrations of Life seem to be very similar on the surface, however, the meaning of each can be very different. When you think of both Celebrations of Life and Funerals, they are a gathering of people to mourn the loss of one person.

A funeral is more rooted in tradition, while a celebration of life is more focused on the life lived and accomplished by the deceased. However, both funerals and celebrations of life have similar purposes. They both focus on gathering, friends and family of the deceased in acknowledgment and support. They also both allow for friends and family to gather together, pay their final respects, and say their last goodbye's. 

 

Funerals

Funerals are one of the most traditional practiced and universally accepted traditions dating back hundreds if not thousands of years ago. The funeral service has been around for a very long time. A funeral traditionally has three components; the visitation, the service, and the committal service. 

The visitation (or viewing) is the held prior to the funeral but it can sometimes be held the night before or in most cases the morning before the funeral service. It is a chance for people to pay their final respects to the deceased and show their support to the family of the bereaved. Following the viewing there is a funeral service, which can be held at a funeral home or church and is led by an officiant of some kind. During the service, a eulogy may be read and stories may be shared, but often it is a time of hymns, scripture reading, and prayers. Once the funereal service has concluded, the funeral procession follows the casket to the burial plot, a small service and reading is done, then the casket is lowered into the ground.

 

Celebration of Life

As mentioned above, funerals are often rooted in tradition and spiritually driven, however a celebration of life is more focused on sharing stories and memories of the deceased.  As the name celebration of life depicts, it is exactly that, it is a time to celebrate the life, personality, and accomplishments of the deceased. It is a chance for family and friends to gather and share their fondest memories and stories of the deceased.

 

Is it possible to have both?

In some cases, when people are not sure which would be a better option, they decide to do a funeral first then a celebration of life to follow. At the celebration of life, it gives people a chance to talk, and learn some things that they didn’t previously know about the deceased.

 

If you have any further questions about funerals or celebrations of life, feel free to contact us at Jerry Spears Funeral Home.

 

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