Making the choice between cremation and burial can be a difficult choice. At the end of the day it's also a very personal one. Even if a loved ones wishes go against your own, it is important that you go along with them. If, however, an end of life discussion has not taken place prior to their passing, this decision can be made infinitely more difficult. Ensuring that these preparations are made ahead of time are important. Making the right choice doesn't have to be too difficult. With that in mind, we aim to educate you on all the options available to help you make the best choice for you and your loved ones.
There are some big differences between cremation and burial that must first be pointed out. When a body is cremated it is reduced to ash. This is a cheaper option and an urn is also less onerous to transport. A burial, on the other hand, allows you to present your loved one's body at the funeral service. This option, while being more traditional, is also more costly. Tradition is an important aspect of a funeral service as it helps many people feel more connected to their ancestors when paying respects in the same way they did. For a lot of people, this will be a driving factor when choosing between the two.
On the other hand, a lot of people, especially in the younger generations, are moving away from traditional values and opt to create their own traditions that instead reflect their own personal values. There is no right or wrong answer here. The choice should ultimately be the one that feels best for you. It should be noted once again that the wishes of the deceased should always take priority, regardless of anyone else's beliefs. Burials involve a lot more steps than cremation. There is the preparation and embalming process to help preserve the body. Caskets, hearse rentals, and burial plots are also considerations to keep in mind. In order to find the perfect plot many people will reserve theirs years in advance. While this ensures that their final resting place suits them perfectly, these added steps can also add financial and emotional stress. Most burials end up costing upwards of $10,000 and, even with the help of a qualified funeral director, take careful planning and preparation.
Cremation is infinitely cheaper and more efficient. Cremation also allows the scattering of your loved ones ashes in a more personal place for them. It also allows you to keep your loved ones close, presenting the urn either in storage or a visible place in your home. A lot of people feel close to their loved ones when they choose this option. It should always be noted that your loved ones' wishes are your number one priority when making any end of life decisions. If they have a preference or their religious beliefs go against a specific choice, then you should absolutely honour and respect those requests and guidelines. A compromise is always welcome, as well, with a traditional service followed by cremation.
If you do have any further questions, please do not hesitate to contact Jerry Spears Funeral Home for any additional information.
Funeral services can be a hard time for everyone involved. Proper etiquette, therefore, is an important consideration when attending any service. Being aware what is acceptable behaviour is a good first step and will help ensure that the service proceeds as it should. We here at Jerry Spears Funeral home have compiled a few of the most important considerations to keep in mind before, during, and after the service.
Your first consideration should be with regard to your clothing. Dressing appropriately is vastly important. Maintaining a simple and professional air is always your best bet. Colours should be subdued, with gray or black on white being preferred. Bright colours should absolutely be avoided in order to avoid being a distraction.
With so many distractions these days, it is imperative that all phones, pagers, and other noisy devices be turned off throughout the service. There is no reason to attend to other business at any point during any funeral service. If a matter does require immediate attention, removing yourself and stepping outside before engaging in a conversation will ensure that you do not frustrate the proceedings. We hope you understand that a funeral service is for solemn remembrance. Turning ringtones off and refraining from boisterous conversation is therefore advised.
Punctuality is important when attending a service. Funeral services do follow a timeline and to arrive late is to interrupt the proceedings. To properly show your respects, arrive early, but not too much so. Arriving early allows you to offer condolences to family members and other attendees, as well as allowing you to remain relaxed throughout. Arriving late and flustered will unnecessarily distract other attendees as well as be potentially embarrassing to you. If circumstances do lead to a late arrival, enter quietly and sit or stand as far back as possible to avoid being a distraction.
If you're unsure of the proper way to pay your respect to the family and offer them condolence, you aren't alone. This can be a difficult engagement with many being unsure of the right sentiment to give. Speaking from the heart is always recommended. Writing out what you plan to say ahead of time can help, but absolutely avoid any scripted words. If you open up, speaking with honesty and respect, your words will be appreciated.
If not an immediate family member or close friend, we recommend finding a seat closer to the middle or back rows. On most occasions, the first few rows are reserved for family, with those immediately behind being occupied by close friends. As with dinner etiquette, remaining standing until the family has first taken their seats shows respect and will also help you determine where you should sit.
By following these simple guidelines you can be assured that you can help a funeral service proceed smoothly. A funeral can be a trying and difficult time for all involved, but it doesn't have to be. Keeping these tips in mind is a perfect way to pay your respects without any fear of showing disrespect or causing any undue stress to gathered friends and family.
If you have any further questions, please do not hesitate to contact Jerry Spears Funeral Home. We are always glad to offer our assistance or answer any questions you may have.